We’ve been on a super hero kick lately. We’ve watched The Avengers, all three Iron Mans, Thor, and The Incredible Hulk. They are the intersection in the Venn diagram of our movie tastes – enough action for K and M without being too scary or gross or stupid for me. We also watched “The End of the World” together but I absolutely took one for the team there.
The great thing about a super hero is movie is not just watching it but dissecting it afterwards. For the record, K’s favorite character is Thor because he’s a god and M’s favorite is Hulk. My favorite is Iron Man. K maintains that Iron Man doesn’t count because his power is the suit but I vigorously disagree. Besides, who doesn’t love Robert Downey, Jr.?
These discussions remind me of the endless conversations K and I had about super powers when she was little. Whenever she and I were in the car together, she’d pipe up from the back seat, “Mom, if you could have any super power, what would it be?” I’d come up with something – super fast speed or x-ray vision and then K would talk for the duration of the ride about what her power would be and how she would use it. She didn’t require any more input so I’d listen to the radio and she would talk and talk. Then on our return trip, she’d ask the question again, I’d give an answer and off she’d go. I guess K wanted to be really ready in case she ever got the opportunity to choose one.
We don’t talk about super powers in the car any more. There are too many texts for K to answer for that but I’ve been thinking about them lately. As the mother of a teenager, which super power would I choose? In no particular order, I’d think the following would come in handy.
Teleportation – K goes to a high school that’s 45 minutes from our house. She’s made friends with kids that live an hour or so away from us. They are great kids and I’m really glad K has them in her life, but the two round trips today will take more than 4 hours out of my day. Teleportation would definitely increase my efficiency and improve my gas mileage.
Listening – Note this power is not super human hearing; it is the ability to super listen. Being able to listen to what a teenager is really saying would be super indeed. For example, “Wanna watch TV?” might mean “I don’t really have anything to say to you but I’m okay being near you and isn’t that enough?”
Wisdom – This would grant me the power to know when to say something and when to keep my mouth shut. To know when I’m setting realistic expectations and when I’m being too hard. To know where to set the bar so that K accomplishes all that she can without making her feel good is never good enough.
Compassion – I’d like the power to remember how hard being a teenager can be. It was hard in the dark ages when I was 15 and it’s exponentially harder today. To remember that an awesome kid who for some reason can’t remember to put a dirty towel in the hamper is still an awesome kid.
If you could have any super power, what would it be?